Realize that it is just a suggestion, made on behalf of the family by the funeral home. But, experts have found, and funeral directors agree, that tasteful floral arrangements sent to the service, ease the discomforts and sorrows of the family and guests. 

If you feel uncomfortable going against their stated wishes, sending a green or flowering plant to the service is a perfect option, as it brightens the setting for the guests, and can be taken home by the family to add beauty there. 

Also, there are other ways to show you care, such as beautiful floral arrangements, or gourmet baskets of fruit or other delicious edibles, sent directly to the family’s home. It’s natural to want to express your sympathy to a recently-bereaved family. Sending something personal can offer them great comfort during a most difficult time.